What’s In YOUR Mailbox?

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Conventional wisdom says ignore negativity and in general I think that’s excellent advice.  Even so, it pleased me to fashion a response to my latest bit of hate mail which was posted to my page on Bodybuilding.com last Tuesday, so that’s what I did.  The following is a screenshot of the note I received.

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Oh dear, looks like someone has their talons out.

Oh dear, looks like someone has their talons out.

Dear Guest,

Since you have taken time out of what I’m sure was an already busy day to write, it’s apparent you want some of my attention which, just this once, I will grant you.  I’m not being facetious.  What I have to say is from the heart.

First I find it odd that you wrote to me to speak for your husband and son.  I’m sure they could speak for themselves if they were so inclined.  I wonder if this is a habit with you?  I can just imagine…”Dear Dr Brown, my husband and son just love you.  They consider you the best doctor they’ve ever been to.” or “Dear Mr. Michaels, my husband and son were so frustrated when they arrived to pick up the car but had to wait an entire half hour for you to finish rotating the tires.”  It seems to me that you might have a smothering type of personality which leads me to my second thought.

It’s entirely possible that your husband and son told you they think I’m a joke or made derisive comments about me if you happened upon them while they were looking at my photos.  Perhaps they didn’t want to upset you or were trying to avoid an argument.  It’s clear that you’re excessively possessive, easily upset and we’ve already established that you tend to smother so there is probably a fair amount of conflict avoidance going on where your family is concerned.

On the other hand, it’s certainly not out of the realm of possibility that you and your family do indeed sit around the dinner table at night and look through my gallery photos to get a good laugh.  I don’t mind.  I don’t take myself seriously with regard to my photos so it doesn’t bother me if you don’t either.  Actually, since I get great pleasure out of spreading happiness, if I get a genuine laugh out of you, your husband or son, I’m perfectly OK with that.  We all need a little more levity in our lives.

Please be aware if I’ve had any contact with your husband on Bodybuilding.com, he has invited it. Out of the 2841 friends I have on the site, I have asked approximately 20 to be my friend first and they were typically friends of friends that I ran into over and over, got to know a little and finally asked to be “official” friends.  This is not a function of anything other than my rather reserved nature with people I don’t know.  I’m a watcher.  I tend to stand back and observe.  I don’t typically initiate contact of any kind on the internet or in my daily life.  It’s just the way I’m wired.  I do offer genuine compliments to people here (men and women alike) when they are merited.  It’s a bodybuilding site. That’s what we do…offer support, encouragement and appreciation where they are deserved.

I’m cognizant of the fact that I’m not in high school.  I got out long ago, got an undergraduate degree, a Master’s degree and a PhD.  I’m thankfully done with the formal part of my education.

As for being a pin up,  maybe I am, maybe I’m not.  I do know that I get many kind notes from people who like the military tribute photos I post. The “pin up” photos are a creative outlet for me that combine my interest in bodybuilding and photography.  Those who like my photos are well aware of the fact that I’m not a model or a photographer by profession.  I post military tribute/patriotic photos not because I’m a beautiful, young thing who gets paid to stand there with an American flag or an Airborne shirt, rather I’m a fellow citizen gratefully acknowledging the very hard work put in by members of our armed forces.  I call them my visual thank you notes.  If you don’t like them, please don’t look at them.  They are my favorite kind of photo to post. Incidentally,  you may be surprised to hear it but several troops have told me specifically that they have one or another of my photos on their walls so I guess maybe I am a “pin up.” Imagine that!

Let’s think this over together.  I have Unidentified  Perturbed Guest Woman who doesn’t enjoy my tribute/patriotic photos on one hand, and some of our nation’s finest, our Sailors, Soldiers, Airmen and Marines who are serving this country honorably, many of them in harm’s way who take the time to write and tell me they like them on the other.  I presume you know who wins that battle of opinion.

Finally, as a former English teacher, I have to tell you that aside from the grammar issues I won’t delve into, your writing style is atrocious.  If you want your opinion to be considered your approach would benefit from a bit more subtlety.  Name calling and use of profanity is a terrible  reflection on you.  It indicates at best a lack of self-control (in which case you lose your argument by default) and at worst a lack of both creative imagination and intelligence.  People judge you by the language you use and how you use it.  As soon as you begin to punctuate your points with swear words you’re discounted as being unworthy of a response.  I hope you to find a way to express yourself so you get the kind of exchanges and results you really want in your life.

Best wishes to you, your husband and your son,


God bless America and God bless our troops

God bless America and God bless our troops!


33 responses

  1. There’s nothing worse than the hatred of jealousy. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re an inspiration to those of us trying to get into shape.

  2. I happened upon one of your photos today while looking for images to use on the gravestone of a Navy corpsman. No, I was not looking for an image of a hot patriotic woman in a cheesecake pose (although I am sure he would not have objected)! The background info is given to sort of qualify that I am someone outside of the bodybuilding and military communities, so what I have to say has no bias based on prior association.

    It is often true that others who know nothing of your life LOVE to judge you by your appearance. I guess it is just human (or rather inhumane) nature. Although I would venture a guess that the majority of those judgements about you are positive, that is not the case when they judge me. I do not have a gym physique, so even more than you I have also learned to be comfortable in my skin despite the unsolicited negative opinions of others. I admit that your appearance is what enticed me to look further; I wanted to see more photos of this mysterious woman with a well-muscled and lean physique in order to…. uhm…. better appreciate her beauty. Yeah, that’s it! Better appreciate your beauty! While reading your blog I have also found the attitude of someone with tremendous inner beauty and strength as well. The inner and outer do not always match, but it is great when they do in such a positive way.

    From what I have read, you don’t need me or anyone else to tell you to ignore the useless haters. Each of us must strive to be someone we love and respect. If we accomplish this to our satisfaction, the opinions of others are insignificant. That being said, my insignificant opinion is that YOU ROCK! Good luck with your life. A safe bet is that you will do just great until you are 149!

    1. Well hello! Thank you for stopping by, taking time to read my blog entry and to leave such a lovely comment. It honestly made my day. Very nice to have someone outside of my regular little circle join the conversation. I think it’s a blessing to reach the point where you’re comfortable in your own skin. I wish it were easier for others to do. Peace of mind is such a gift in life. When you love and appreciate yourself, you tend not to perceive the gifts others have (beauty, strength, special skills) as a threat. Rather, you simply acknowledge and enjoy them. It doesn’t serve as a negative challenge in your heart or mind. Luckily, the people in the bodybuilding community are overwhelmingly positive and supportive. It’s very rare to run into someone like the woman who wrote me (anonymously of course).

      Your words are much appreciated by me. So glad you dropped in. You left a trail of sunshine behind you!

  3. Apparently she wanted to spread some of her sad life your way, but it’s impossible to bring down a super star! Great response Lynn!

    PS.. You’re my pinup girl each and every day of the year! 🙂

    1. VINNY!! Wonderful Vinny…thank you. See one little comment from you counteracts ALL the negativity anyone could throw my way. Thanks for the smile!

  4. U rock girl! Let the haters hate…she probably looks in the mirror and wishes she was u! 😉

    1. Aw…thank you for the sweet support. I luckily don’t get many notes like that. The bodybuilding community as a whole is very supportive and positive. I’d venture a guess that she’s the wife of a lifter or person who exercises but that she does very little herself. Speaking of exercising I sure hope you’re enjoying your gym time. It’s been great for me these last few weeks. I’m feeling strong! Wishing you a happy Monday!

  5. put 50 people in a room..a few will be idiots. Total idiots. Unfortunately, thats the way it rolls in todays society. Nice job of dissecting that 80 IQ idiot. Sometimes, you just gotta let it rip. Mercy…you did. 🙂 Love ya doc.

    1. 80 IQ idiot….that make me laugh! Thankfully there are very few people like that who contact me. I guess I shouldn’t be surprised that they do so anonymously. The summer schedule is coming to an end for me. It’s back to the fall routine soon and I’m looking forward to it. Love breaks in the routine but I appreciate the pacing that my normal routine gives me. Hope you’re doing well these days. Wishing you a wonderful Monday!

  6. well said doc, and u r a pin up

    1. Hi!! Thanks for the sweet comment. I’ve been having good days in the gym lately. My strength is through the roof and I love it. Sure hope you’re enjoying these hot summer days. I see the signs of fall in the trees already!

  7. Great Blog Doc. Got your six.

    1. Well thank you! The vast majority of the notes I get are very kind but once in a while someone throws a little bitterness into the mix. Hope you’re doing well!

  8. See my beautiful Spider monkey, this is EXACTLY why I adore you! Though I enjoyed reading your response, I am sure that there are many words that she will have to look up. I love your patriotic photos..well maybe not the ones showing the Marines all that love! Lol, just kidding! I couldn’t have found a better favorite spider monkey ever, thank you for the support you show my brothers and sisters and God Bless you! Don’t even get me started on the shoes you put on your hella sexy legs…

    1. ‘LICIOUS!! Hi and happy, happy Friday to you. YOU are a ray of sunshine for me…always quick with a kind word and moral support. Thank you…and I adore you back!

    2. I left you a PM on bb.com yesterday. Don’t know if you’ll see it if you don’t check in there very often. Sending you wishes for a beautiful, sunny start to the week!

  9. Unbelievable that somebody would lash out like that. I’m sure her life is pretty meaningless that’s full of jealousy and hate. Every picture and blog I’ve seen and read from you tells me you’re a pretty special person. Keep it going girl.

    1. Thank you so much! I really appreciate your kind comment. I do kind of feel sorry for her (although I’m glad she can’t see me face to face). Who knows what people like that are capable of? Sure hope you’re having a nice end to your week and I’m sending you wishes for a fantastic weekend!

  10. I think you should have ended your letter to “Unidentified Perturbed Guest Woman” with: “If the broom fits, ride it.” You were WAY kinder to her than I would have been!

    1. Oh! I like that one…If the broom fits, ride it! I’ll put that in the memory banks for later use. Made me laugh!!

  11. Holy Cow BatWoman! I was wondering why it took so long for someone like her to attempt to write you in “almost” English:) Shame on her husband and son for not telling the truth. I think they need to be guests on the Maury Povich show as they would fail the lie detector test instantly LOL. Now to you. EXCELLENT response. I have to admit back in my USMC days I would have to count to 100 before I replied to someone. Your response was so polite and respectful while keeping it very real. Congress sure could use your skills:) In closing don’t you ever stop posting your patriotic classy pics! It would be an injustice to us military family members who appreciate the love you have for those who give the ultimate sacrifice. Thank goodness football season is near. Go Cowboys and Niners 🙂 Keep rockin it Lynn!!!!

    1. Ah Matt, we’re birds of a feather. I know you purposely sow kindness in the world. That’s one of the reasons I think so much of you. Your Maury Povich comment made me crack up. Thank you for the laugh!

  12. Bravo! You are so right in every paragraph, especially when you get down to her English. I agree, profanity just shows a lack a creative vocabulary. Now am I am sure that doesn’t bother her as she never pursued an education to begin with. Just a man she has to stand guard over. I would wonder if she isn’t getting as much discussion or attention as youfrom heer son and husband, maybe she ought to pick up some weights. Can I ask, what discipline is your Masters and Phd in?

    1. You leave me the nicest notes. Thank you! My undergrad degree is in English Lit. I couldn’t decide what to major in and I like to read so…My Masters degree is in Instruction and Curriculum (Education) and my PhD is in Organizational Development (that means I’m supposed to get others to bend to my wishes WITHOUT using a cattle prod). Ha, ha…doesn’t work on my children!

      1. Education, huh? Now I’m really embarrassed. I reread my comment and noticed all the typing errors while I slam someone for lack of education. Glass houses, right? If Org. Dev. helped you to get others to bend to your whim I would have studied that years ago. …I buy ’em off with cookies and donuts. 🙂 YOUR children? WTH? Sounds like Fiction Ms. English Lit. Have a great weekend Doctor…

  13. Wow! Some folks just can’t handle the truth! Great response, keep up the information you provide and the pleasure your pictures bring!

    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and taking time to leave such a nice comment for me. I really appreciate it. Sure hope you had a good week and I hope the weekend turns out to be fun and relaxing!

  14. HaHa! Hilarious, “I’m sure you took time out of what I’m sure is a busy day day”. Here’s what happened. Husband & Son were looking at your pics, she saw & in a jealous rage in fact, wrote in a way that would be satisfactory in elementary school, maybe pre-k.

    1. Gee…who knows what goes on in that woman’s house. It’s pretty clear she’s VERY unhappy and prone to lashing out. I sort of feel sorry for her. I hope she can fix herself! Hope those workouts are going well for you. I’m training like a little BEAST! Feels SO good!

  15. I agree with you Lynn..it’s a bodybuilding site and we are here to motivate, compliment, etc, etc..oh as far as a pin up…you are that so she doesn’t know what she is saying…the fact that she mentioned it shows that she thinks you are beautiful 🙂

    1. Thank you! See…you’re the kind of person I LOVE to hear from! Glad there aren’t too many like her that pop up on bb.com!

  16. Well Said!

    1. Thank you! I just wanted to answer this particular piece of “mean mail.” I usually just ignore negative people!

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